Do you want to know what the secret is to have better mornings?

Many of the moms I talk to tell me they are in their own head constantly – where this inner mean girl is telling them everything they are doing wrong.  Everything they shouldn’t have done.  Everything they should have done better.

What about you?  Do you have an inner mean girl that fills your head with less than positive stories about you? I know I have one.  In fact, I named her. Her name is Molly. Molly is the mean girl that lives inside me, that I work on diligently these days to keep her calm and quiet.

When I wake up and notice Molly is being active, I have a choice.  I can choose to continue listening to her as she tells me I could have done a better job being a mom, as she tells me I really need to lose 10 pounds, as she tells me I should be running my business better. I can also choose to not listen to her.  To put another kind of message in my mind and to focus on that instead.

Your fears, insecurities, and self-doubts will run the show if you let them.  Your mind is literally programmed to focus on the bad.  Crazy right?  How is this helpful? Well, these days it’s not very helpful.  When we were hunting and living in caves, this was a very important mechanism that kept humans alive.  But we live in a different world now, yet our minds are still programmed the same.

In order to choose to put a positive message in your mind, you have to notice the inner mean girl.  You have to stop yourself when you’re having those mean girl thoughts.  Then, introduce something positive to focus on.  It can be as simple as a note in your bathroom mirror.  It can be a few minutes of journaling something lovely about yourself each morning.  Whatever works for you.

The result isn’t instant.  You’ve had that mean girl programming in your mind for a long time now.  But if you put a new message in your mind every day, it will work.  It will help your mornings be better.  Which will also help your days be better.

Don’t let the mean girl win.  Be NICE to yourself Mama!